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The part about narcissists having no understanding of the concept of love, that's what I came to realize about my dad. It's indeed all transactional.

This doesn’t apply if they found a new supply. They don’t give a crap about you.

Do they really hate themselves, though? They are hateful people, but does that mean they hate themselves? Some of the most pampered and indulged people are the biggest abusers---they were given everything and it still isn't enough. Like a bottomless pit of entitlement.

RUSSIAN EX TENNIS PLAYER ANNA KURNIKOVA looks like this girl aboveI am wondering if she is a covert narcissist?🧐

I don’t think people realize that being with a person who’s never taking accountability when bad things happen or don’t find solutions that work for the relationship can be exhausting and detrimental to your mental health. Literally, your brain will change (physically), if you don’t get out of these relationships…. Like it’s bad… really bad to be with someone like this. It can get really hard to overcome this. It’s taken me 2 months now and this is the 2nd time I get into a relationship with a narcissist. Boundaries. Non negotiables. Trust your instincts and intuition. Do not allow people to shame you or guilt trip you or SHIFT the blame on you.

It happens gradually! (very slowly they start blaming you, shaming you and guilt tripping you).

When she talks about split, you need to understand Splitting … and why Splitting is happening and what that looks like.

Last time we broke up she started calling my sisters boyfriend. Yikes!!

Yes "Silent treatment" is not okay. I mean, for an hour yes. But, "silent treatment" is basically the only way to get away from a female covert narcissist. Otherwise, we male will fall again for her voice, words and beauty... My only chance was to ignore her and ignore her messages that came each 6 months.... I am not myself anymore even after 7 years that I left her!

My first hint of being gaslighted is with my wifes intake of oxygen.

These only show up after marriage. Before marriage they are on good behavior.

narc is expert in getting 'other people' to do the job for them, so that the narc will always look 'immaculate' (holy , didn't do bad nasty stuff) because they use other people's mouth and hand.

Yes, it does feel like you’ve abandon yourself. .

He would always say, “do you deserve it?” And it would always always make me uncomfortable. Always. So much so, my body would send me signals.

yes, narc is really good at self-righteous. they could think of 10 reasons in a minute to justify their nasty actions. so no point trying to make them feel guilty for their nasty attitude/action.

Narcs are evil. Do what you can to stay away from them.

The blame game…. He’s the one that said he didn’t see a future with me but he expected me to stay with him. I did post me going on vacation on social media because I didn’t want him to see my pain. I was healing. But I wasn’t out there looking for a man or anything. People need time to heal before even thinking about going into another relationship.

Watching and listening lets me see just how so many of the characteristics and situations you describe can be linked to a relative. I'm a very late born 'marriage patch kid' and ever convenient scapegoat to a family of narcissists. Dominated by their covertly narcissistic matriarchs at least 5 generations back where they have all repeated the very same cycle over and over. My un-diagnosed autism into my mid 40s helped them maintain control of me because of having felt that I don't think like any of them might make them all right. Having been born into it made it my normal. Now my mother is alone because her daughter's in law learnt how she used guilt, psychological manipulation and more on us and turned my much older siblings against their own support structures. All I kept in the back of my mind once as I grew up and learnt about my family is that I MUST use them as an example of what to try to not let happen to me. Being barely 11 years older than my oldest nephew and seeing every one of them repeat all of the above only helped resolve my choice to not pass it on by having kids. Seeing that I am not alone in this has helped so much with being able to get myself to cut ties with almost all of them. Thank you.

my x wife started hhanging out with my friends then telling me they are no longer my friends they are her friends and i cant hang out with them anymore every place we went she was somehow there making the same stupid claim and i was hanging out with these same guys since sixth grade most of them anyway some showed up later than 6th grade.

Freedom comes in many forms. I recently ended a 7 year torture session with a narcissist. Her predictable behaviour was toxic for 80% of the time which ultimately led to my breakup with her. It has now been a few months since I've spoken even one word and I've noticed that I'm becoming my old happy self again that makes time for those real and genuine people around me who really care about me. The main lesson I learnt from this toxic nightmare was that you should never ignore your gut feeling and your suspicion about an individual. That early mistake I made, made my nightmare linger for seven years rather than seven days. I blame myself for that. When dealing with toxic people who blame you for everything that goes wrong in a relationship should be taken as a red flag that they are only using you for what they can get from you. You are only what the experts refer to as a supply, meaning they constantly crave attention and play the victim when you're the actual victim. Unfortunately I had to learn this the hard way due to my forgiving nature, I believe they call me an empath. That said, I'll cut this short and say those who find themselves being manipulated by a toxic woman, just block her from every avenue of possible contact , ignore her pathetic attempts to luar you back into her deranged life and your healing will begin.

You got me on that one… 13:33 … just on that… it happened later… 27 years… and 12 months ago a new Computer… Involved with a Online channel… created her one channel… told of a secret admirer… new better not to…and a third party was being talked to behind my back… It’s not the same as it’s been… worst of my time… never thought it was going to happen… I’m at that point in time for the next move in my life… can’t stand all the verbal abuse… then the sweet time with someone on the phone … to strange how a person can change…!!! Thank you… impressed with the quality of the messages…!!!

Is it possible for the narcissist who's never been in a relationship do most of these unintentionally?

Coverts will never be keen on tipping for service especially if no one sees them around or if they have to pay. They have this entitlement and don't feel gratitude as usual human do. One major red flag! It's never about the money as they want you to spend $1000 on expensive wine bottle but would frown upon to give $50 to waiter. My ex used to pick tip money off the cheque 🤷🏾.

Never apologizes or says sorry & mean it.

I MUST be in a trauma bond. I'm in the discard phase and I know her well enough to know how she is with most people that have been shunned in her life and I know that once we're done: we're done. Part of me is relieved, but part of me also worries about her getting by in life. I miss the good times we DID have together...but I also know those were sprinkled in between all of the abusive tactics she's used on me for years. Its like I already miss her, but I need her gone for my own sanity. Part of me still holds out hope that MAYBE she'll realize how she's been and we can come to terms and be ok again (even though I know that will never happen). Just sucks cause she has pets that have become family to me and its not just her I'm losing, but them too. Knowing I'll never see my babies again hurts the most I think. I'm also a very reclusive person and she's pretty much been the only one I've shared my life with for the past 8 years. I'll adjust, I know I will, it just sucks right now.

Block demons

They're annoying & delusional af who need to go find them someone to play with 🤷🏾‍♀️ I thought I told granny to keep her roaches out my life? I don't owe none of you shit now leave me tf alone & turn ya badge in from stalking me. Have the Ravarieres died yet or they're waiting to watch their kids catch the karma of their wicked behavior 🙃 tf away from me or slide ho I ain't sorry & damn sho ain't thinking about you. Move ya stagnant ahh on

As much as she's hurt me and as much as I know she hates me, I still pray that she find's happiness, good health, and things work out well for her. Like seriously, I really do hope life treats her well and and no harm comes to her. She's claimed several times that I'm the narcissist, but its this sentiment that I still have for her that proves, to me any way, that I'm far from being a narcissist. Or is this just another sign of trauma bonding? lol.....probably..is that a normal thing? Or am I just the odd one out with still wishing her well?

Somebody said they put love spells on people 😂😂 people who'd love to see them die. bE CareFUl whAt U AsK foR 🤡

Thank you so much for shedding light on this. 💜✞🕊

My ex covert Narc reflected on herself on a recent Valentines Day trip to Venice and Verona. In the bedroom of the Villa my then GF said to my amazement that she felt like she was a prostitute and that she carried baggage. When I said please dont speak about yourself in this way she replied,'She was only Joking!!!) She knew that she wasnt ok. This was the beginning of devaluation and eventually discarding

A 16 year old should not be referred to as a mistress.

My husband would say( My friends think you’re hot.) I was always like what a weird thing to say to your wife. But, he was telling me he didn’t think, I was. Now I get it.

I want justice not revenge. Restitution

When they try to violate you and expect a response, and bring up things that don’t involve them.

Thanks for the message.

My silence is for me at this time. Trying to collect my own thoughts. It breaks my heart because I truely love him but I can’t keep breaking my heart over what he needs. It’s time for me for a while 💔

She could just switch it on and off. Not normal.

I heard I’m Sorry, but I’m not Sorry, Because I never did anything wrong 🤥

You give them the benefit of doubt and they think it’s another opportunity to disrespect you and harass you

They do one thing then constantly try to break into your room, then blame you while sabotaging your life, then say it’s your mental health and not the fact that you’re being sexually violated by the public

They can’t go a day wo harassing others fr they’ll call sexual harassment whining and they’ll normalize being creepy and hateful always breaking boundaries

Omg. 😮

The not being real family, has hit home more than anything … even married…. Not included…. Kept separate Eye opening

Still dealing w these feelings. And missing her. Ugh. Why.

Definitely a roller coaster of a ride One minute, I’m feeling compassion and the next, I’m just angry and feel so nieve.

I stuck up for him, so many times, defended his behavior, his words, he was my husband, to learn about all his dishonesty and disloyalty towards me. I can’t even describe, how that makes me feel.

How to deal with anger after being discarded? He disrespected me in so many ways! Disrespected my time, my energy, my love, my care, my life, me as human being... Just HUGE disrespect beyond all lines one can imagine. And then the brutal inhuman discard after months of disrespect and emotional abuse. I can't stop being angry when I realize what all was just a lie. How he pretended he care etc and turned everything against me as if I was the bad person, as If I was too much burden and so on.

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I need help,i eeally cant stop ruminate,like look back,is unbelievable,everything was insane😰